Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

CovenantEyes: “Great Prayers” God Can’t Answer

“As I coach men out of addiction, I regularly see wrong patterns of thinking that God had to correct in my own heart before I was able to navigate clear of lust. So many earnest believers who hate this sin cry out year after year, praying ‘wrong’ prayers and wondering why God isn’t answering their prayers and helping them. After a while, they are tempted to become callous and jaded, wondering if God even cares or if they are really saved and if they are simply beyond hope.”

My Only Comfort: The Modesty Debate

“The assumption of the modesty debate is that men are creatures of lust who can’t help it – especially if a woman is dressed immodestly. Really, it’s her fault. The woman who you put in front of me, Lord, she gave it to me and I did look.”

Storyline: What to Do When Life Hasn’t Turned Out How You Wanted

“f you (or someone you know) struggle with feeling not good enough because of things you did or things done to you, below are some steps that helped me find freedom and the courage to rewrite my story.”

Six Seeds: The Day My Marriage Blew Up

“Most men have no idea where these feelings come from. Many try not to feel anything at all. Some are so skilled at denying their emotions they aren’t even aware they exist. Very few men know how to deal with their feelings in a healthy way.”

Relevant: What Victims of Sexual Abuse Need to Hear From Christians

“An abuse story told, no matter how difficult it is for the one telling it, is merely an announcement that a crime has taken place in their mansion. The story acknowledges, to some degree, why the mansion is in such disrepair, while making it clear that there are many locked rooms, barricaded wings, and trashed hallways that in due season will need to be engaged, but only when and if the person is ready.”

Bible Project: The Image of God

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Cripplegate: Behavior Modification vs. Repentance

“Jesus knows a few things about humanity and the nature of personal change. The source of our thoughts, words, and behavior is not our bad day, lack of sleep, missing our workout, environmental conditions, or other circumstances ultimately. Sure, these things might make things harder. But the origin of what we do is our hearts. So, if we are going to truly change, it needs to start there.”

Samuel D. James: Evangelicals and Toxic Masculinity

“I don’t believe that historic Christian doctrines about marriage or sexuality cause toxic masculinity. I do, however, believe that sin causes it, and the conclusion that I’ve come to is the conclusion that I heard years ago and ignored: The American evangelical church has a blind spot when it comes to the sinful way our culture thinks of manhood.”

Momastery: Pe-Tish-ion

“When I was little — I looked at the one size fits none standard of beauty and thought: ‘There’s something wrong with me.’ And Tish will look at the same crap and say: ‘There’s something wrong with THAT.’”

Russel Moore: If You’ve Cheated, Should You Tell Your Spouse?

“Sometimes the act of confessing to a wife or husband seems like it would do more harm than good. I once got a letter from a man who said he committed adultery years ago, but the affair had lasted only a week and he had repented to God and others. The reason he was unsure about confessing to his wife was that the marriage was already going through difficulty, and he was deeply concerned that a bombshell like this would end the marriage and harm the children.”

Beautiful Eulogy: The String That Ties Us

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Forward Progress: I am Barabbas

“And now we stand with this man. Suddenly freed from condemnation. Blinking our prison-darkened eyes in the light of the sun of liberty. Facing the penalty of death, we now surprisingly stand free. Free to work. Free to enjoy. Free to live.”

Steve McVey: The Needless Search

“In Him the search for significance is over. For anybody to keep looking for for value through what he does is a waste of time and completely unnecessary. You have been joined to Perfection through your adoption in Jesus Christ. He defines you.”

Dave Willis: 5 Things I Want My Kids to Know about Gender Identity

“The quest to find our ‘gender identity’ is really just another quest to find our ‘identity.’ We’re all longing to know who we are and why we’re here.”

Christianity Today: 3 Tips for Reaching the Dechurched

“To reach the dechurched, we have to understand them. And, as I see the dechurched, there are two main groups—the open and closed. How we seek to reach a dechurched person should be determined, in part, by which group they’re from.”

CCEF: “Abba, Father!” The Cry of God’s Children

“Sometimes for Christians, there is another loss beneath our suffering and it makes everything even worse. It’s the loss that comes with the feeling that we are not really God’s children. Because if we really were his children, if we really got the gospel, our other losses wouldn’t touch us so deeply.”

CovenantEyes: How to Deal with Shame and Guilt Following Pornography

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

CCEF: Satan’s Strategies

“We live in an era when Satan’s power is limited but he still prowls around like a lion. Our security remains a major concern. These are just some of the clear ways that the Spirit prepares us.”

XXXChurch: The Biggest Lie Women Believe

“Shame has a powerful grip on the mind of a woman addicted to porn. If she is the only woman struggling with this, she is out of the ordinary. Out of 7.4 billion humans, she happens to be the freak. The odd one out. She doesn’t fit the feminine mold, so there must be something irredeemably wrong with her. Shame becomes her blanket. It is the only way of making sense of her experience.”

DesiringGod: Six Truths for Dating Someone with a Sexual History

“The one who has his or her own sexual history faces their own challenges. The twin emotions of dating someone with a sexual history, though, are insecurity and obsession. Insecurity, because you feel exposed and already judged when you feel the weight of your partner’s regret and struggle to process what their sins mean for you. Obsession, because you want to let the past be the past, but only after your own morbidly detailed investigation — and because you stubbornly refuse to be rejected and overlooked for the purity which you’ve guarded so diligently.”

CovenantEyes: 4 Things to Remember About Your Husband’s Porn Problem

“While your marriage may have issues (because every marriage has issues at one point or another), you are not the reason your husband or wife decided turning to porn was a good idea. Chances are, porn was an issue for your spouse before you even entered the picture.”

KeyLife: Healing the Wounded Heart

“Join Dr. Dan Allender on Steve Brown, Etc. for a discussion of his new book, Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation. If you have suffered sexual harm, you can dare to believe that evil doesn’t get the last word.”

Pete Wilson: God Celebrates the Steps and Heals the Falls