Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Desiring God: Homophobia Has No Place in the Church

“Simply put, homophobia means a fear of homosexuality and, more specifically, homosexual people. And while it is not the same as loving, biblical opposition to certain behaviors or beliefs, this fear-based attitude often leads to unhelpful stereotypes, prejudice, and even cruel mistreatment.”

ChristianityToday: The Gospel, Breaking Sinful Patterns, and Addiction

“People both inside and outside of our churches need help breaking sinful patterns in their lives. Our culture offers various ways to cope with addictions and issues, but only the gospel offers real freedom and transformation.”

XXXChurch: Five Ways To Be A Man When Dealing With Your Porn Habit

“There’s nothing un-manly about being honest with where you are. Actually, it’s quite manly to be honest, to share with others, to seek help. It shows that you’re comfortable being vulnerable, shows that you’re not afraid to show your weakness. There’s no shame in asking for help. It makes you more of a man.”

Storyline: Is Guarding Your Heart Really Protecting You?

“These small decisions seem meaningless but built up over time, as we choose resistance and safety over openness and risk, it becomes harder and harder to be open, harder and harder to risk.”

Key Life: Grace (In 90 Seconds)

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Desiring God: You Are Not Damaged Goods

“When sexual history is revealed, both parties may feel betrayed for different reasons. Every sentence takes on the cadence of a threat — an ultimatum. Every question can land like a left hook.”

Gospel Coalition: How to Slay the Dragon of Pornography

“The pursuit of porn has bad consequences. We need no special insight to see it erodes relationships and never satisfies. But bad consequences aren’t enough to stop us. We must be ready with persuasive reasons to put up a fight, and then assemble those reasons into a story that has some of the following elements.”

CovenantEyes: 3 Truths to Help You Heal from Marital Betrayal

“If I could write down everything I learned on this journey I could fill a bookshelf, so I will try to narrow this down to some key lessons that proved extremely helpful for my healing.”

XXXChurch: What You Fear Most Will Heal You

“Nothing fuels addiction like secrecy and shame. Active in our addiction, we believe we are innately broken and unworthy of love. Unless we learn to give voice to our inadequacies and hidden transgressions amongst those who support us, our addiction will thrive.”

Rosaria Butterfield: What Christians Just Don’t Get About LGBT Folks

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Integrity Restored: My 7 Year Old Asked Me What Porn Was. Here’s What I told Him

“You see, It’s not a matter of if our kids will see porn, it’s a matter of when. And while good Internet filters and accountability software are a must, we need to help our children develop their own internal filter for the unfiltered world in which they live.”

Relevant: The Real Reason Shame Destroys Your Life

“When Adam and Eve’s shame was exposed in the garden, they both turned immediately inward. Adam shifted his attention away from God and Eve and toward the search for fig leaves to cover himself and to hide his shame. Eve did the same. Man and woman sought independence from God, lost interest in one another’s flourishing and looked out for number one.”

Crossway: You Can Change

“I want to be like Jesus. I can observe him in action as I read the Gospels. I can study the life he lived and the love he showed. I could try very hard to imitate him. But at best that would lead only to a small, short-lived improvement, and indeed even that small improvement would probably only make me proud. I need more than an example. I need help.”

For the Church: The One Ring and Pornography

“Pornography may seem to be a mainly erotic temptation, but its deepest appeal is spiritual. Viewers come for the titillation but they stay for the autonomy, the power to make an alternate reality in which mythological figures (actors and models) submit unhesitatingly.”

Odd Thomas: The Reality of the Resurrection

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Terry Crews: Porn Addiction Messed Up My Life

“It affected everything. My wife was literally like, ‘I don’t know you anymore. I’m out of here.’ I had to change…”

Storyline: What God Sees When He Looks At You

“While I had been sneering at a prostitute, I had completely missed a deeper truth – that the woman across the street was once a little girl who had been in Sunday school, singing songs of hope and redemption. And somewhere she’d lost her way, and had been wandering a long, long time.”

Blogging Theologically: The Roadblock I Couldn’t See

“For years, I didn’t get the gospel message. Truth be told, I rarely heard it growing up. But I was pretty sure I had an idea of what Christians were all about: working hard at doing good deeds and spoiling fun for everyone else so they could get right with their God.”

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Desiring God: Take Action Against Adultery

“The vast majority of time when an affair is consummated, it is done with someone that they’ve known at least a month and with whom they have had multiple interactions. That means that there is time to notice the warning signs.”

Leading Men: Why Daughters Need Their Dads

“After more than twenty years of listening to daughters—and doling out antibiotics, anti-depressants, and stimulants to girls who have gone without a father’s love—I know just how important fathers are.”

Your Mom has a Blog: Sex Education Should Start in the Christian Home

“The pornography industry wants to get our kids hooked, like it got so many boys in my generation hooked. It is a huge, insidious machine that wants nothing more than to continue raking in billions of dollars at the expense of families everywhere.”

XXXChurch: Porn Will Never Love You Back. Here’s Why

“Porn will never love you back. Even if you give all of yourself to chasing after it, all your time, attention, money, heart, mind, and soul, it will never love you back. Why? It has no soul. It has no feelings. It doesn’t care about you.”

Covenant Eyes: The Deadly Cycle of Pornography

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Randy Alcorn: If God Is Happy, Why Does He Seem Bad-Tempered?

“Sin is so prevalent and the Bible is written to point out and deal with the sin problem. Hence, we often do see a God with anger and wrath, and it’s easy to overlook all of the lovingkindness passages and all the passages about God delighting in His people and God being pleased.”

KeyLife: Lent Makes Me Feel Guilty

“One of the reasons I grieve for folks who insist on their own goodness is that they miss so much. It’s not their sin that is sad; it’s their stiffness. Once you start calling something right that God says is wrong—gluttony, sexual sin, arrogance, bitterness, lack of compassion, self-righteousness, etc.—you burn the bridge that leads to a God who will ‘hug’ you.”

CovenantEyes: How to Parent for Purity in the 21st Century

“My children now tell me their greatest fear was that we would not understand how they feel. But I do understand. I know what it is like to feel the allure of pornography even though I know it would destroy me. I know what it is like as a kid to be shown pornography by a friend. I know what it is like to feel ashamed at what I let myself see and allowed my mind to imagine.”

XXXChurch: 3 Ways to Stop Blaming Others and Finally Own Your Porn Problem

“The way to cut off the first sprout of blame is to free ourselves and others from the immediate conspiracy theories that pop up in our heads, and to offer openness instead.”

Rob Bell: Rain

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

CovenantEyes: 5 Horrible Ways to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Addiction

“There is not a ‘good’ way to tell your wife–if by ‘good’ you mean she won’t feel hurt. But there are ways to tell your wife that are ‘bad’–meaning they exacerbate the damage of your sin by how you communicate the information. The purpose of this post is help you avoid five common mistakes in talking to your wife.”

Seattle School of Theology: The Curious Risk of Restoring Men

“Therefore, the other part of the work I do is to help boys grow up into godly men—and to help dads raise up godly men out of their boys. It’s actually because you (my daughter) are so important, so valuable, so precious, that I want to do whatever I can to help create a world that grows up good men so that you have a good husband and your children have a good father. You deserve that. It’s not that you are unimportant. In fact, it’s because you are super important!”

Paul Young: You Never Need to Feel Shame

“Only as we grow and mature do we begin to realize that there are fundamental relational truths that are so much deeper than laws and rules. These can be summed up by the law of love, or Golden Rule, but they center around expressing a life full of other-centered, self-giving love.”

Tim Challies: Messy Grace

“One of Messy Grace’s strengths is Kaltenbach’s description of just how much homosexuality provides an identity. For that reason, when you tell a homosexual that he must renounce his homosexuality, you are not asking him to renounce mere behavior, but an entire identity, an entire means of self-understanding.”

Pete Wilson: But God

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Desiring God: How to Have Intimacy with God

“But of course intimacy is not spatial but relational. We all know what it’s like to be sitting right next to a person with whom we feel distant and we can feel close to a person who is four thousand miles away.”

Seattle School of Theology: What I Learned about Healing from the Seattle Seahawks

“I quickly realized that the attitude I have toward the Seahawks is the same one I have toward myself. Will I ever be enough? Reflecting on the Seahawks, and what they reflect about my own life, I have discovered a few ideas about healing to take with me on my journey.”

Key Life: Why Controllers Control

“We have all come to our own conclusions about life and how it should be lived, and will fight hard to protect the sometimes thin veneer those beliefs represent between us and insanity. Because, listen, if I accept that your belief is true and mine is a pile of junk, then I’ve been living my life as a lie.”

John Piper: You Are More Loved Than You Imagine

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Steve McVey: Shaking Off Shame

“Remember this important truth: Adam’s sin did not change God; it only changed Adam. The same is true about your own life. There is nothing you have done or could ever do that would change how God feels toward you.”

Intentional Warriors: Do We Have To Be Warriors?

“The battle is real, and every man can sense he is in one, even if he lacks the framework to interpret it or the language to express it.”

CovenantEyes: Should a Pastor be Fired if He’s Viewing Porn?

“It would be like the Black Plague on the church if all of the struggling pastors had to resign. I believe they need help, not banishment.”

Storyline: The First Step Toward Seeing The Miraculous in Your Life

“Gratitude is a very small action can have an enormously positive effect on our lives. Here are two ways giving a little thanks can go a long way.”

The Bible Project: Job

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

XXXChurch: Porn Isn’t the Problem. So What Is?

“So, as I have said so many times before, we are free to ask the only real question: What do you want? Because you can have whatever you want – seek it and you will find it if you seek it with all of your heart.”

Tim Challies: The Character of the Christian–A One-Woman Man

“Thus this qualification is a call to devotion—devotion first to God and then to a God-given spouse. It is a call away from adultery to be sure, but also from a wandering heart, wandering eyes, or wandering hands.”

Dave Willis: The 4 steps to forgiveness

“We’ve ALL been hurt before, and we don’t always know how to deal with the pain of heartbreak or betrayal in a healthy way. Most people want to live a grace-filled life free from bitterness or grudges, but they aren’t sure how to do it.”

Christianity Today: Raising Kids in a Confused Culture

“The reality is, we as parents have an obligation to teach our children, in the midst of a culture that is confused, to have confident values that are based on both a Christian worldview and the teachings of the scriptures.”

Lauren Chandler: Sharing Your Past Struggles in a New Relationship