Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Wm. Paul Young: Why Everyone Should Have Their Dark Secrets Exposed

“What you might not know is that sexual abuse was a frequent part of my childhood. In fact I don’t remember life as a little boy without it being the one constant. Everything else was motion, but this reality was present everywhere I was.”

Relevant: 5 Ways Porn Ruins Relationships

“The consequences of pornography can be seen in many different areas of life, but here are some of the relational consequences of being addicted to porn.”

xxxChurch: 3 Ways To Love Someone With A Porn Problem

“In this colossal issue of porn addiction in our world, those of us who claim the mantle of ‘Christ Follower’ live in a unique place. We are a people called to love, forgive, and even heal the broken and addicted and ashamed.”

Richard Beck: The Church is Dying and I Couldn’t Be More Excited

“I’ve been dipping into this post-Christian world over here in the UK, the place where America is heading, and I wanted to share a few things.”

Trip Lee: Hope and Help for the Porn Addict

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Pete Wilson: It’s Okay To Not Be Okay

“As Christians, we often think we have to be perfect or we’re going to screw everything up, or something crazy like that. This thinking puts insane pressure on us to be perfect all the time, and it’s just not realistic. That’s why we have a saying around Cross Point – it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to have doubts. It’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to be imperfect. The beautiful thing about Christianity is that it’s based on God’s love and grace for us, rather than our good works. However, that doesn’t give us permission to give up on living the way God intends for us to live.”

Fil Anderson: Who I am is Deeply Loved

“For crying out loud, where did we get the idea that we’ll ever become the people we believe we’re supposed to be? The pages of the Bible overflow with stories of brokenness. All of the biblical characters we love and admire were a complex mix of strengths and weaknesses.”

xxxChurch: Can a Christian Ever Really Be Free from Porn?

“Having some sort of control over the sin in our lives may be important in the short-term, but eventually we will simply get burned out and will grow tired of fighting or clinging on simply because we’re not dealing with the deeper issues. This is why Jesus didn’t just tell His listeners not to murder or to commit adultery but not to even be angry or think lustfully about another person.”

Micah J. Murray: Should I Rethink My Theology? (a Flowchart)

“Next time you’re talking about God, stop and listen to the words coming out of your mouth. Does the person you’re describing sound like an @$$? If so, consider it an invitation to rethink your theology.”

Matt Chandler: When Your Soul’s Affections are Dead

When Your Soul’s Affections are Dead from Desiring God on Vimeo.

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

JD Greer: I’m Divorced. How Does God See Me Now?

“Sadly, many Christians talk about divorce as if it’s the unforgivable sin, the one line in life that once you cross it, you can never really recover from. Many divorced have been told—and believe—that their divorce means condemnation. They think that God has given up on them. It’s as if you are wearing a Scarlet D that demonstrates to God and the world that you are a divorcée, and a second class Christian.”

Donald Miller: The Devastating Power of Lies in a Relationship

“I’ve only had two friends (that I know about) who’ve looked me in the eye and told me lies. Both of them were trying to cover up mistakes. I certainly had grace for their mistakes, but I’ve wondered looking back if I didn’t have grace for their lies.”

xxxChurch: 3 Myths of the Good Church Kid

“You might be the ‘good church kid.’ You never miss church, Bible study, or youth group. Any and every opportunity there is to do something with the church family, you are there. No one is suspicious of you. In fact, lots of people come to you for advice and counsel.”

NACR: Recovery from Sexual Addiction

“Mark Laaser, author of Faithful & True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World, has been a friend of the NACR since it’s inception. He understands sexual addiction from both personal experience and from working with sex addicts in several treatment programs. In his books and seminars Mark has offered hope and healing to thousands of co-strugglers. We interviewed him recently by phone from his home near Minneapolis, Minnesota.”

Dr. Dan Allender: Hearts of Men

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Desiring God: How Much of My Sinful Past Should I Tell My Children?

“A podcast listener named James writes in: ‘Pastor John, a big question for parents is whether talking about past sins, sins like drug use, sexual immorality, drunkenness, etc., will make our children more or less likely to try out or do these when they’re older…’”

Become Good Soil: Quick

“That was years ago. But my heart remembers like it was yesterday. And there isn’t a sunrise that I don’t find myself stretching my memory back to that canyon to watch my dad run toward me again.”

Gospel Coalition: Rethinking Sex Ed in the Church

“But then two days after the retreat, it hit me. I am 15 years old. Statistics say that I am not going to get married for at least 10 more years. I am a raging ball of adolescent hormones. The next 10 years are going to be a miserable season of sexual restraint. Furthermore, if I’m lucky, I may succeed for one week in living up to these standards.”

Bold Grace: Religion Has Done Too Much Harm

“Religion swears by what man must do to have God’s approval. In this merit system, he will never do enough. Some preachers preach that one must do this or that for God to be pleased with him, or that he must give more to be blessed more, or that he must forsake sin for God to hear his prayers. But all this is religion, for God cannot love man more than what He has done through Jesus’ sacrifice.”

Rob Bell: Rediscovering Wonder

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

xxxChurch: 8 Ways Porn Changes You

“When we as adults watch porn, do we know what context to put it in ourselves? I mean, if porn results in addiction, lack of intimacy, decreased satisfaction, desensitization and feelings of despair—why do so many of us try and tell ourselves that ‘it won’t hurt us’?”

Ponder Anew: Dear Church—An open letter from one of those millennials you can’t figure out

“A lot’s been made over the millennial generation and their religious life. Why they go to church. Why they don’t go to church. What they want. What they hate. I’m going to do something different here. I’m not going to cite Barna. I’m not going to quote Rachel Held Evans. I’m not going to link to any articles or blog posts. I’m just going to tell you what’s true for me, and what I’ve seen to be true of others like me.”

Peter Sholl: Guidance on How to be a Man

“When it comes to living the ‘right’ life of a middle-aged male, I am confused. I’m confused because, when I watch sport, the advertisements and commentators are constantly telling me who I am.”

Nick Harrison: Grace Notes

“There’s an old story about grace that goes something like this: A man dies and meets St. Peter at the gates of heaven. Peter tells the man, ‘In order to get into heaven you have to accumulate 100 points. So tell me on what basis should I allow you into heaven?’”

Jefferson Bethke: Porn and Technology

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Mary DeMuth: Josh Duggar and the Problem of Easy Forgiving

“When I saw the news yesterday about Josh Duggar, his subsequent confession and decision to leave the Family Research Council over it, my heart hurt. Not because I was surprised. But because this kind of pattern is all too familiar.”

xxxChurch: Quitting Porn #101 – You Gotta Want It

“When I was struggling with pornography and in the early stages of sobriety I’ll be completely honest. The idea of never looking at porn again kinda freaked me out. I mean, life without porn? I couldn’t even remember what that looked like. You see … it wasn’t even so much a lack of faith or belief that I could do it. It was being 100% certain I actually wanted to do it.”

Wm. Paul Young: If Anything Matters Then Everything Matters

“I believe things matter. I believe that we matter. I believe that you matter. I believe that God, as revealed as Jesus, is what defines us all, that that is life.”

NACR: When My Life Was At It’s Worst, I Looked the Best

“It has taken me years of hard work in Christian recovery to get past my decades of focus on externals. It turns out that there is much more to who I am than either external looking good or internal shame. It turns out there is a precious child of God inside. A child who is very much loved by God.”

Josh & Suzy Stoll: Repentant Love

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Gospel Coalition: What Does it Mean to “Accept Jesus”?

“A person in this condition can “accept Jesus” in either of two ways. One way is to invite him onto the committee. Give Jesus a vote too. But then he is just one influence among many. This way of inviting Jesus into one’s life is common here in the Bible Belt. But it isn’t Christianity, as defined by the New Testament.”

NACR.org: Why Do Christians Need to Work the Steps?

“Works can never be the foundation for our relationship with God. But there should be nothing passive about our relationship with God either. It is God’s intention that we give ourselves to the work of becoming more and more able to receive God’s grace.”

Desiring God: You Can Say No to Porn

“Not all sexual desire is lust. God made sexual desire. It has its good place and it can, in fact, become an act of worship in the temple of marriage. But lust is sexual desire gone wrong.”

CovenantEyes: Paul vs. Porn–How the old apostle delivers a death blow to a modern addiction

“For many, this is how they feel about pornography: they feel a compulsive draw to it, an attachment, a preoccupation. Rather than use medical terms to describe our compulsions, the Apostle Paul used familiar terms of the marketplace—in particular, the institution of slavery.”

Pastor Bob Daily: Fear

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Reverence Movement: How would the real Jesus answer the question “Is homosexuality a sin?”

“About 80% of the people I speak with about God and Homosexuality are very open-minded when it comes to learning about and discussing the subject in a loving manner. As a Pastor, I find this very encouraging. However, there are a select few who still wish to draw a line in the sand; a line they will not cross.”

People of the Second Chance: Undeserving Freedom

Many of us have experienced wounds that cut to the core. The problem is that most of our wounds have held us captive with the belief that what we’ve done has disqualified us from being used by God. It’s time to let that belief go. Guilt and shame don’t belong to you anymore. They belong to the one who uttered the words, “IT IS FINISHED.“

Tim Challies: The Seed of Divorce

“One young man asked how to ensure that a couple does not bring into their marriage a seed that could bloom into divorce. And it did not take me more than a moment to realize that in my marriage and in your marriage and in every marriage, there is already the seed of divorce.”

NACR.org: Grace in Action

“The hard rule of grace is that there is nothing you can do to earn it. Anything we do to try to earn grace cuts us right off from The Source. We can’t experience God’s grace unless we are willing to let God give it to us—not an easy task.”

Sam Allberry: “What are some ways that Christians can more effectively minister to church members who struggle with same-sex attraction?”

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Joshua Rodgers: The Right Time to Tell My Darkest Secret

“The thing was, when I was growing up, telling the story wasn’t an option. I simply knew that the wrong person had sexualized me at the wrong age, and I was never, ever to speak of it. But I desperately needed to get it off my chest.”

Credo House: Four Characteristics of Legalism

“Legalism is something we all lean toward in one way or another. Humanity has been plagued by this from the very beginning as we see in Job’s friends. Why is this? Well, we like to have everything under control. We don’t like risk. We don’t like it when things get uncomfortable. And showing grace, to ourselves and others, takes the ball out of our court. Rule, laws, and lists of requirements are so much easier than grace and freedom.”

Donald Miller: Before You Get Married, Do You Need to Talk About Money And Sex?

“Before my wife and I got married, I called my counselor friend Al to see if he would do our pre-marital counseling for us. His response really surprised me. He said basically, “no” and then explained how he didn’t like to do pre-marital counseling in the way you typically think about pre-marital counseling.”

Jaunita Ryan: Recovery from Distorted Images of God

“When we examine our private images of God and discover significant distortions, we may feel horrified at the thought that we could harbor such negative images of God. Viewing God in negative ways may seem unacceptable and frightening. In spite of our fears, however, I believe it is critical that we explore our private images of God.”

John Piper: Do You Love God?

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

NACR.org: Let Go of Shame

“Letting go of shame is important because shame leads only to destructive places. Shame keeps us focused on how bad we feel about ourselves, and thus less aware and open to others. Shame keeps us immobilized because it is based in the belief that we are hopelessly beyond help. Shame pushes us to isolate because we feel too exposed. Shame feels so terrible that it opens the door to rage. We cannot stand to feel so terrible so we lash out at ourselves and we lash out at others.”

Wm. Paul Young: An Invitation to a Different Kind of Conversation

“Here are some thoughts as we work toward crafting a free and safe space, to interact and tell our stories. These are lessons I’ve learned about how to interact with each other freely, and I’d like you to ponder them, should you have the time and inclination.”

Gospel Coalition: 10 Things Singles in Romantic Relationships Ought to Know

“It’s not bad to want to have sex with your significant other. It’d be another sort of worry if you didn’t. The key is to want to glorify Christ more than you want to have sex with each other.”

CovenantEyes: 10 Amazing Resources for Talking to Children About Porn

“Talking to kids about porn sounds, at the very least, like an awkward conversation. But never before have their been so many good resources to help parents talk to their kids about this critical topic.”

Pete Wilson: Is There Really Grace For Sexual Sin?