Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Russell Moore | How Christians Should Handle Shame

“Every Christian has had to wrestle at some point with guilt. Even for those who believe, theologically, that they are forgiven in Christ, the struggle to feel forgiven can be agonizing. How should believers in the gospel of justification handle their residing feelings of shame, guilt, and condemnation?”

Key Life | Grace in a…Strip Club?

“Sinners who know themselves to be sinful and desperately needy because of it, find themselves in the presence of Jesus forgiven and loved. Jesus is the only place that the prostitute, the stripper, the adulteress, and the like, find pardon instead of condemnation. Jesus doesn’t shun sinners but embraces them with love so shocking that it sets them free.”

Asley Willis | Why Christians are Getting Sex Wrong

“[F]or years I had learned that sex was a HUGE, shameful no-no, and I would nearly ruin my life if I ever even thought about doing it. I know my parents and church had good intentions in teaching me this way, but to be honest, it just made me scared of sex.”

Tim Challies | How an Affair Really Begins

“One of the great misconceptions about affairs is that they begin with sex. Affairs do not begin with sex. Falling into bed with a man who is not your husband or a woman who is not your wife is never a sudden, unplanned event. Instead, it is a culminating decision in a long list of terrible, self-centered decisions.”

Chad West | No More Do Better Religion

“Any old religion can tell you to be more moral. Anyone with half a decent heart can point out all your flaws. But only the gospel can tell us that, in spite of our deep sin, God offers us peace through Christ.”

Lecrae | Can’t Stop Me Now

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Patheos | Sex and Authentic Desire: What Do You Really Want?

“[T]he Christian tradition insists that nothing in all of creation can fully satisfy a person. Dissatisfaction in itself needn’t imply immaturity; in fact, it is ingredient in what it means to be human. Christians of every make and model know that Augustine had it right: ‘You had made us for yourself, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.'”

Steve McVey | Is God Angry?

“Sadly, I’ve seen that many people share the perception I had of God’s character and personality. Maybe you haven’t been so far gone as to believe that God would let you have a flat tire simply because you didn’t have your quiet time. But my earlier legalistic foolishness highlights the importance of our understanding of God’s nature.”

Benjamin L. Corey | Rethinking Romans 8:28

“There’s a big difference between ‘all things working together for good’ and ‘God working in all things for good.’ In one, God is the causing agent. In the other, God is relentless and unstoppable– he becomes willing and able to take anything you can throw at him, and still find a way to work for good.”

Rob Armstrong | God Has a Reason: A Biblical View of Human Sexuality and Sex

“The conversation about human sexuality, sexual activity, and the role of sex finds its beginning in understanding the relationship of humanity to God. A Christian understanding of the relationship between God and humanity is founded upon the Bible. A biblical understanding of God’s purpose and design for humanity provides the context for rightly understanding all aspects of life, including sexuality and sex.”

The Good Book | How I found freedom from gender confusion

“I didn’t want to be a woman; in the early days I think, above all, I just wanted to be normal. Even as the hiding places in my bedroom filled up with second-hand lingerie, I clung to the hope that one day I’d be ‘cured’—that the urge would disappear completely, or that the sense of disgust I felt whenever I yielded would prove strong enough to stop me yielding the next time. Failing that, I longed for the definition of normal to change—to learn that cross-dressing was actually something perfectly natural and wholesome, something everyone did. I wanted the struggle to end—either in victory, or in acceptance.”

Stand to Reason | Challenge Response: There’s a Contradiction at the Core of Christianity

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Wesley Hill | Sex for Christians: Self-Giving and Sanctifying

“On closer inspection, though, the fact that the early Christians celebrated virginity wasn’t just about being countercultural. They didn’t want to stand out from their neighbors just for the sake of standing out. Instead, their view of their bodies and their life goals and their social structures had been upended by Jesus’ resurrection.”

Key Life | Sorry Not Sorry

“All believers have got to go through the process of repentance. Say you’re sorry, really mean it, and if you do that, then God will take you back. And this is just what happens in the Prodigal Son story, right? Well, maybe not.”

Oprah | Pastor Carl Lentz Interview on Super Soul Sunday

“Oprah is joined by Carl Lentz, a lead pastor at Hillsong Church in New York City, for a conversation that could shift how you experience the world. Pastor Lentz is the dynamic force behind one of the most talked-about new congregations in American Christianity. See why his come-as-you-are approach to faith appeals to a new generation of spiritual seekers, including pop singers, young Hollywood and NBA players.”

Bromleigh McCleneghan | Sexuality: Part of the Imago Dei

“Christians don’t understand sexuality as something that mars our pristine souls with all that gross embodiment—fluids and limbs and passion. Our sexuality is rather a critical part of who we are, part of what makes us unique and alive and which draws us into connection with others. But, and this is important: our sexuality is also only a part of who we are.”

Josh Wilson | No More

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Matt Moore | Secret Sin Will Devour You

“Living in secret sin is no trivial thing—it always hinders the outworking of a person’s faith and always possesses the power to destroy a person’s faith. However, God has given us the practice of confession to protect us from these hindrances and endangerments.”

The Daily Signal | Almost Everything the Media Tell You About Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Is Wrong

“In the end, Mayer and McHugh observe that much about sexuality and gender remains unknown. They call for honest, rigorous, and dispassionate research to help better inform public discourse and, more importantly, sound medical practice.”

Tim Challies | What God Does With Your Sin

“So, what does God do with your sin? He throws it behind his back, drowns it in the sea, treads it underfoot, blots it out, forgets it, removes it, covers it, takes it away, cancels it, washes it, and forgives it. And God can do and will do all of this in the present because of one thing he did in the past.”

Brad Hambrick | How Do I Know if My Life Struggle Requires Counseling?

“We will offer nine points of reflection to help you identify whether making the time and energy investment in counseling is wise for your life struggle. The more of these you identify with, the more likely counseling would be a wise step for you.”

Desiring God | Three Steps to Stop Wasting Your Life

“[I]f we follow those: trust him, renounce self-reliance, bring him into every situation, he is going to make our paths straight. He is going to keep us from wasting our lives or destroying ourselves and others in the path of sin and bringing us to everlasting joy.”

Key Life | Justification by Faith (In 90 Seconds)

Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.

Richard Rohr | The Performance Principle

“It’s not what you do for God; it’s what God has done for you. You switch from trying to love God to just letting God love you. And it’s at that point you fall in love with God.”

Ray Ortlund | We Are Our Secrets

“What if we admitted our weaknesses, owned up to our failures, named our idiot-moments, confessed our follies, errors and debts, and also hid away from everyone’s view our smart ideas, heroic sacrifices, kind deeds, charities and virtues? What if, instead of throwing back at the other guy his worst failure while trotting out our own best moment, we put up our worst against his best? What then? Our hearts might start filling up.”

Lifeway | The 1 Temptation of Every Man

“Men, I can feel it inside me – this urge to simply let things happen. To assume a position of powerlessness. To take the easy road of being uninformed and uninvested. But this is not the road that God has charted out for us. This is not the road that He Himself takes on behalf of us. God is a Father who is actively engaged, not passively aware.”

XXXchurch | 9 Reasons Men Should Stay Away from Porn

“Some people believe that pornography can add excitement to their sex life. However, studies prove just the opposite. Porn actually produces less intimacy between partners, less romantic excitement, and less satisfaction in real sexual experiences.”

Tim Challies | What a Wonder!

“If the Holy Spirit has made his home within you, you can be sure that he will never abandon you. Who or what could ever drive God out of his dwelling place? Is Satan powerful enough to displace the Spirit? Of course not.”

Gospel Coalition | Why God’s Sexual Ethic Is Good for the World

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Albert Mohler | From Father to Son — J.R.R. Tolkien on Sex

“Even as Tolkien is celebrated as an author and literary figure, some of his most important messages were communicated by means of letters, and some of the most important letters were written to his sons.”

Gospel Coalition | Not Two Kingdoms, But Two Ages

“Christians are capable of acting both according to the flesh and according to the Spirit. Which further means, activities of the flesh and Spirit will inform the activities of both creation institutions and new creation institutions.”

A Mother Far from Home | The Lion That Wants to Devour Your Family

“In the past, a person had to seek out pornography to find it. They had to have enough balls (so to speak) to go into a store and buy a magazine or book. They had to pay real money to buy a video. They had to go to a strip club or massage parlor or wherever else it could be found. Now… porn finds you.”

CovenantEyes | 19 Possible Motives Triggering Your Porn Consumption

“As you identify the trigger-motive for your sexual sin, we also want you to begin to see how you are treating your sin like a friend, ally, refuge, etc. These insights are essential for repentance to make sense as a central part of change. Unless we see how our sin seeks to replace God in our life, then our need to be made right with God comes across as if God is unduly hung up about our sexuality.”

Dave Willis | 4 Things Every Parent Needs to Know About Porn

“As the conversation continued, it became apparent that even if these kids were exaggerating their own experiences to impress their peers, the stats suggest that their experience is much more common than we’d like to admit.”

And Sons | A Larger Story

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Emmaus Blog | The Beautiful Gift of Gospel Community and Why You Need It

“What if our Community Groups were a place to be completely known and completely loved? What if we viewed community as a gift of grace, meant to draw us closer to Jesus?”

Tim Challies | Sex Under Law, Sex Under Grace

“As married people, and especially people who believe that marriage is a lifelong commitment rather than a mere covenant of convenience, we have the joy of working patiently at sex, knowing that our performance never threatens to change the nature of our relationship.”

Russell Moore | Rescuing Men From Fake Love and Fake War

“If you’re addicted to sugar or tequila or heroin you want more and more of that substance. But porn and video games both are built on novelty, on the quest for newer and different experiences. That’s why you rarely find a man addicted to a single pornographic image. He’s entrapped in an ever-expanding kaleidoscope.”

Relevant | How Your ‘Fantasies’ Can Ruin Real Relationships

“So many men and women today are falling in love with a dream; falling in love with someone or something that doesn’t really exist, by taking the character of someone they don’t really know and adding the story that they find themselves living in the world of fantasy falling in love with a dream, falling in love with an idea, but ultimately falling in love with a lie.”

Christ and Pop Culture | The Morgan Grimes Theory

“I don’t believe true friends have to spill their guts out to each other every day. If I don’t want to talk about something with a friend, that’s okay. But if I’m never willing to be open and honest, if I am never able to share any bit of myself beyond surface chitchat, is that a best friendship? Will constantly closing myself off inspire trust and loyalty? I don’t think so, and apparently Morgan doesn’t either.”

Beautiful Eulogy | Entitlement

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Cripplegate | 3 Differences Between Christianity & Other Religions

“While many of the world’s religions have similar features, biblical Christianity differs radically from them all. There are a handful of things which put it in a category of its own. Without understanding these differences, we cannot properly comprehend Christianity.”

Relevant | 5 Movies Every Man Should Watch

“A great film is not simply a good way to spend a mindless Friday night. It can also be motivating, redemptive, and helpful in spurring you on toward maturity in your faith journey. In fact almost every great story possesses characteristics that reflect the gospel.”

Brad Hambrick | “Papa’s an Idiot” Letter and Heretical Psalms

“We do not have to choose between honesty and reverence because of psalms like these. God is not agreeing that our experience is objectively true, but he is demonstrating his willingness to sometimes put compassion before instruction.”

Samuel D. James | A Few Thoughts on “Purity Culture”

“Many of evangelical culture’s ideas about sexuality, marriage, and relationships have borne bad fruit. I’ve heard from many people who, like me, were raised in a conservative evangelical context, but unlike me, were exposed to a grievously harsh and legalistic theology that shamed, alienated, and wounded them.”

The Babylon Bee | Man Suffers Fractured Neck After Bouncing Eyes Too Hard

“Fitch then summoned a nurse to turn off the hospital television since he found himself unable to bounce his eyes from an inappropriate commercial, due to his neck injury.”

Flame | Start Over

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Brad Hambrick | 5 Levels of Motivation for Overcoming Addiction

“Don’t feel ashamed of your conflicted motives. God already knows and he still wants to help. The only person you can lie to is yourself and those who love you.”

Janet Newberry | Grace as a Second Language

“There’s no test for mastery in the language of grace; fluent language speakers are recognized by the way they influence others for good. – Also by the way they articulate humility and peaceful submission to appropriate authority. You’ll know you’ve experienced a fluent speaker of grace when you experience peace, personal maturity, real healing of your heart, true joy, and when your own life bears good fruit – that lasts.”

LifeWay | 3 Reasons Men’s Small Groups Are Difficult to Lead

“Coaching 6-year-old football is challenging, time-consuming, and requires loads of emotional energy. Why? Because football teams of 6-year-olds are difficult to lead. But quite possibly, not as difficult as men’s Bible study groups. In speaking with ministry leaders across the country, I’m convinced that leading a men’s small group is one of, if not the most difficult task in a local church.”

Storyline | One Reason You’re Not Making The Progress You Wish You Were

“Admitting to my struggling faith does not separate me from God; it is the pretending that I have none that does.”

Dave Willis | 7 Ways Modern Man is Failing

“If we will be willing to refocus on these areas and humbly make course corrections where needed, I believe we could improve our lives, our families and our legacies.”

Barbara Walters Interviews Johnny Cash on Faith

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The Gospel Coalition | How Celibacy Can Fulfill Your Sexuality

“We know we are sexual beings. We know this sexuality is meant to mean something. But unless we know what our sexuality is for, we won’t understand how it’s meant to work.”

I Am Second | I Was Addicted to Porn and Here’s How I Stopped

“When I couldn’t get rid of my addiction, I started to believe it was who I was. I was a terrible person, and if I was a terrible person, I couldn’t expect to behave any differently. Every time I gave in to my addiction, it reinforced this idea and wrapped me tighter and tighter into my destructive behavior.”

LifeWay | 5 Mistakes Pastors Make in Reaching Men

“From fresh flowers to bulletin shells splashed with pastel colors, the design of many churches pings the feminine meter. They do not feel like places men are typically comfortable. Think stadiums, man caves, and garages.”

Steve McVey | Does God Keep Score?

“f your understanding of who God is has been framed by the traditional teachings of a legalistic religious world, you’re not likely to see Him in any other way. If you see your God as one who is primarily concerned about your actions, if you see Him as one who is disappointed when you do wrong, if you see Him as one who stands ready to punish those who fail and reward those who do their best to do the right thing, you have been taken captive by an Adamic view of God.”

XXXChurch | Does Memorizing Bible Verses Actually Help My Sexual Purity?

“The Bible is not a rulebook that teaches us how to live; it’s a map that shows us the way to discipleship through emulating the resurrected Christ.”

Steve Brown | When Prodigals Go Back to the Pigs